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Today is the second anniversary of the death of one friend's young husband.
Last week a good friend killed himself in despair.
Today another lovely woman's husband is being kept alive through the miracles of modern medicine, but he's suffering organ death and miracles are hard to come by.
Another couple I adore is divorcing. Two other friends are being worn to shreds as their mothers slip away into twilight or the ravages of cancer. Cathy's husband has been given months to live.
A wonderful woman died last week, leaving her son, whom I adore, in grief.

I must remember there is a baby Stendahl. And a baby Kahler. And a baby Reichert. A new baby George is on the way. And my favorite newlyweds are having a housewarming for their new home on Saturday. My youngest SCA daughter is getting a wonderful new house. I got to see Kathi. The Ping is healing, though he may end up blind in that eye. TAG kitty is better. eLeri is home from the hospital. Tina got a job. Carrie has a job. Matt is doing well in school. Jeci is coming home.

Blessings. I has them.



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Jul. 16th, 2012 11:40 am (UTC)
One of my favorite bits in Silverlock is about exactly this point. Golias has come to rescue Silverlock from The Pit, and confronts the Courts of Hell as follows:

"Is there anyone here" he suddenly shouted, "such a fool as to believe that because there is good, there is no evil?"
"There is evil," their triumphant voices cried back.
"Then is anyone here," Golias took them up, "so reckless as to claim that because there is evil, there is no good?"
They snagged their breaths on that one. There was a silence that seemed to suck up the air. Then they all spoke, as if under an irresistible compulsion. "There is good."
The phrase was a moan; and after it was stilled I heard a voice that could only have been that of the emperor. "I remember it," he whispered.
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Jul. 16th, 2012 12:39 pm (UTC)
It'll sound "kitschy," but I've always favored a proper rendering of "yin and yang" in looking at life.

The scales balance, even if they seem out of balance...one way or the other...at any given point in time.
Jul. 16th, 2012 01:48 pm (UTC)
The Doctor: The way I see it, every life is a pile of good things and bad things. Hey. The good things don't always soften the bad things, but vice-versa, the bad things don't necessarily spoil the good things and make them unimportant.
Jul. 16th, 2012 01:49 pm (UTC)
Such a weight of sadness.

Holding you and your loved ones in the Light...
Jul. 16th, 2012 02:13 pm (UTC)
I understand your feelings. We have the same lovely woman as a friend. Another friend is dealing with her mother's bone cancer. My mother is starting to come to grips with being a widow. I feel guilty that things are going well for me.
Jul. 16th, 2012 03:51 pm (UTC)
I don't know you, but I have to respond to the guilt for your blessings in the face of others' despair. I've had that. I keep reminding myself -- and so now I tell you -- that it's not like there is only X amount of good luck in the universe, and the more one has the less is available to others. (Same thing with money. I have friends who resent anyone who has more than them, and misery apparently not only loves company, but demands it.)

I try to counter the unhappy in the world with as much happy as I can muster/create/fine/celebrate. It's a really tough job! Join me!
Jul. 16th, 2012 03:49 pm (UTC)
It does seem like life is an endless marathon of running betwixt grief and high delight. Whatever are we mere mortals to do!? :-/
Jul. 16th, 2012 10:11 pm (UTC)
At the risk of sounding egocentric, I sit in the hinterlands feeling so very impudent to ease dear friends' sorrows. Not that I could actually do anything to change the circumstances, but I used to be a stalwart physical presence when needed.

The best I can offer is a virtual hug and to reiterate that not all is bad, as not all is great. When we saw each other for the first time in a decade last weekend, I felt the same as you did. I got to hold you for a moment and know we got to see each other. The sad news of a friend's inability to continue cannot erase a beautiful moment. I got to see a friend elevated and spend time with others so dearly missed.

That is what matters. Be there for 'chosen family' when you can. Hold out a hand of faith and support for those who require it. Sometimes, all it takes is knowing we are listening.

Love you.
Jul. 17th, 2012 12:23 pm (UTC)
Yet, for we who believe, there is a great day coming when He will wipe every tear from our eyes. Death will be no more; mourning and crying and pain will be no more. All will be made new. We will inherit a New Jerusalem. This is a promise to cling to. A promise He is faithful to deliver.

Read Revelation 21.
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